Positive Self Motivation is the inner drive that puts optimism into action for winning in life. Winners are driven by desire! A winner will have the desire to improve upon their own personal development. There never was a consistent winner in any walk of life, who didn’t have that burning desire to win internalized. Winners know that the basic behavioral axiom in life is the fact that you and I do become what we think about most. You and I are motivated everyday and moved by our currently dominant thoughts. In other words we move only in the direction of that what we dwell on.
Everyone in life is self motivated, a little bit or a lot, positively or negatively, even a decision to do nothing is a decision based on motivation. Motivation is a force which moves us to action, and it springs from inside the individual. Motivation is defined as a strong tendency toward or away from an object or situation, and it can be learned and developed, it doesn’t have to be inborn.
Positive Self Motivation Puts You In The Driver’s Seat of Your Life
Anyone wishing to improve upon their personal development has to, in one way or another ignite their own motivation. For too long it has been wrongly assumed that motivation is extraneous, that it can be pumped in from the outside through pep talks, or contests or rallies. Such activities do provide concepts in education, encouragement, and inspiration for individuals to turn on their creative powers, but only if they want to and only if internalized.
That’s the secret, lasting change is effected only when the need for change is both understood and internalized. Until the reward or incentive has been interrupted and internalized it has no motivational power at all. So the real winners in life are the people who have developed, as a result of an overall attitude of positive self expectancy, or optimism, a strong positive self motivation. This is key to improving upon your own personal development.
In other words they developed this ability to move in the direction of goals that they set, or roles they want to play, and they will tolerate little or no distraction from moving towards those goals. In the face of all discouragement, mistakes, and setbacks, this inner drive keeps them moving upward towards self fulfillment. Motivation is a very emotional state, and the great physical and mental motivators in life, such as survival, hunger, thirst, revenge, and love are all charged with emotion. The two key emotions which dominate all human motivation with opposite but nearly equal results are fear and desire.
Fear is the most powerful negative motivator of all, fear is the great compeler and the great inhibitor, fear restricts, tightens and panics, forces and ultimately scuttles plans and defeats goals. Fear can destroy a persons personal development and inhibit any attempt to improve it. Desire, conversely is like a strong positive magnet, it attracts, reaches, opens, and directs, and encourages, and achieves goals.
Fear and desire are poles apart and they lead to alternate destiny’s in life, fear always looks to the past, and desire looks to the future. Fear vividly replays haunting experiences of failure, pain, disappointment, and unpleasantness and is a dogged reminder that the same experiences are likely to repeat themselves. Desire on the other hand, triggers memory of pleasure and success, it excites the need to replay these and to create new winning experiences. The consuming prison words of the fearsome person are likely to be, I have to, I can’t, I see risk, and I wish. But desire says I want to, I can, I see opportunity, and I will. Desire is that emotional state between where you are and where you want to be. To have successful personal development, we have to learn to deal with fear as well as with desire.
In life winners know that all of their actions will be controlled by their currently dominant thoughts and that you cannot dwell on the reverse of an idea. That’s why you can’t lose weight if you keep thinking about how fat you are, you can’t stop smoking if you see yourself as a smoker and that’s why you can’t get rich if you are worried about your bills. Winners see risk as opportunity, they see the rewards of success in advance, and they don’t see the penalties of failure. They see personal development as a positive step towards a better life. Individuals dominated by fear, they can’t act with choice or positive intent, they go through life reacting in defensive. People who are dominated by stress are unable to change the world they live in, the world they live in alters them.
It’s a strange and sobering, fact that the thing we fear most, we ourselves bring to pass. Burning desire is the perfect mental anecdote, for fear, and despair. Desire sparks activity which burns up excessive adrenaline in the system. It keeps the mind busy and the hope of achievement alive. High achievers in life have strong personal development skills and they hold a high degree of motivation. The enduring power that moves them to action comes from inside themselves. Success in life is not reserved for the few, success is almost totally dependent upon drive and persistence.
We need to really learn and remember how to really develop this winning action quality of positive self motivation. It’s important for you to remember that everybody is self motivated, either a little bit or a lot, positively or negatively and that motivation is not optional, even the decision to do nothing is a motivation. Each of us is motivated by our fears or our desires. Fear is unavoidable because it can get you out of danger, and save your life, it can save a child’s life, but as a habit or a way of life, fear has an extremely destructive side effect.
Fear is a red light that can stop dangerous behavior, but desire is the green light that lets you go forward toward your goals. So your most valuable exercise in developing positive self motivation is to try to replace fear motivation with desire motivation. Fortunately, because fear and desire are two sides of the same coin, this is not as difficult as it appears to be. Fear of poverty can be replaced with desire for affluence.
Fear of sickness can be replaced with desire for good health, fear of failure can be replaced with desire for success. All these actions must be present to attain improved personal development. A lack of effort is the same as giving in, when there is no true attempt to seek improvement, there can be no improvement at all to relish over. Don’t let the fear of failure halt you in your journey for greater personal development, hold onto the desire for complete success and true life fulfillment. Winners realize that they are motivated by their currently dominant thought, so your concentration should be on the reward of the success that you seek, rather then the possible penalty of failure. Make desire your currently dominant thought and it will propel you with the motivating energy for success in every area of your daily life.
Behind every winner is the burning desire, of optimism and enthusiasm toward the reward of success and not the penalty of failure, toward the solution in place of the problems and toward the answer in place of the question. Behind every winner is the burning desire, the absolute need, and the never ending drive for complete improved personal development.
To Follow are Some Action Reminders Towards Positive Self Motivation!
First off, replace the word can’t with can in the daily vocabulary, can applies to about 95% of the challenges you encounter.
Next, replace the word “try” with “will,” in your daily vocabulary, this is a form of semantics and simply establishes your new attitude of dwelling on things you will do rather then on things you plan to try with that built in excuse in advance for possible failure. Focus all your attention and energy on the achievement of the objective your involved in right now, forget about the consequences of failure. Keep your drive for personal development at the for front of your mind.
Failure is only a temporary change in direction to set you straight for your next success. Remember you usually get what you think of most. Next, make a list of your five most important wants or desires, and right next to each, put down what the payoff or benefit is when you achieve it. Look at this list before you go to bed each night and upon waking each morning. Always give solution oriented feedback when people tell you their problems. When the problems are your own, focus on the immediate thought…”Whats the answer?” Seek out and talk to a person, this week, that is currently doing what it is you want to do most, and be certain that it is someone who is doing it well. This applies to anything, earning, or selling, skiing, or acting, speaking, managing, or even being a good spouse or parent.
Find an expert, get the facts, make a project of learning everything you can about other winners in the field. Take a course in it, get personal lessons and generate excitement by mentally seeing yourself enjoying the success. Finally, make it a habit for everyone of your goals, to repeat again, and again, “I want to, I can, I want to, I can.” The power these steps will have on the improvement of your personal development, is unmeasurable. You will feel empowered, strengthened, and successful, nothing can stop you, your achievements will pile one upon another, you will know what true personal development feels like in action.